Friday, July 27, 2007

Why I hate dating

So, here's the thing.... The new guy might not be all I thought he was. I hate it when people can't just be honest -- especially about things that are so easy to find out are a lie.

Initially, he told me he was 46. He's 49. Yes, his mother died -- four days before he said she did. When he was on his trip with his kids. I've doubted if the trip happened, but he did have stories about it that make it likely to have actually happened. So, why would he lie about when she died?

And she's his step-mother. Married to his dad for about 20 years. So, I'm not saying he's not as attached as he said, because some people are very close to step-parents, but it's a detail he left out.

He's been married twice, not once. I'm beginning to wonder if this second divorce is really final, and how close he still is to the ex (or almost-ex). He does live in his own apartment, so I know that separation exists. However, she calls and has him pick up things at the grocery store for her, when he's out. Odd.

You know what's really weird? We found two houses here that we liked. If the one we bought hadn't worked out, we would have bought the other one. Which is right across the street from his former home, where his ex still lives. Creepy.

He's stopped communicating as frequently with me. He'll say, "Let's go out Wednesday." When I ask when and where.....silence. Weird. I just noticed he's placed a new profile on a dating site, though. His name is different (not unusual, for safety reasons). His listed age is even lower than the one he lied about to me. He says he's a Gemini, but he's a Capricorn.

How do I manage to attract such stellar examples of manhood? This is frustrating because I really did enjoy spending time with this one. Low pressure, similar goals. Or so I thought....


Anonymous said...

Okay, sweetie, I know you're a Leo and stuff, but perhaps it might be time to take a step back from the dating thing for a little bit.

Oh, and you know damn well that you don't need to be messing around with Capricorns.

I am quite convinced that there is nothing wrong with you, but you seem to be attracting problematic men lately, and that problem needs to be cut off at the knees presently.

But yeah, dating is a pain in the ass. Arranged marriage is not a particularly good alternative, so...

Blogget Jones said...

LOL Yeah, I seem to have these fellas on the radar, don't I? And it's not like I'm in any particular hurry to get married. And you're right about a Capricorn -- that was just icing on a nasty cake for me! Oh, if I'd known that up front....

I'm sick of being disappointed in people. A break is probably a good idea.