Don't think Old BF....

....will be contacting me anymore.

He called me the other day. To ask what size underwear he wears. No, seriously. This is exactly what he asked. He was shopping and couldn't figure it out. When I said, "Go with the same size as your pants," he asked what size that was.

Helplessness is a HUGE turn-off for me.

He launched into a spiel about how lost he is without me. How much he loves and misses me. How he's changed and he'd do anything to be with me again. He even promised he hasn't flirted with anyone since I've been gone. "If I can't be with you, then I don't want to be with anyone," he stated.

My Spidey-sense tingled.

He's lying. I know it.

I've asked him to stop putting me through this. While I'm not in love with him anymore and he's hurt me to the core, I don't like to hear him hurting. I don't like hurting him by saying no. I know it makes him depressed and that's BIG GUILT.

If I can prove he's lying yet again, then I'll have proved my case once and for all. And we'll be done with it.

So, I read his email. Now, before you get all up in my face about privacy and all, he gave me the password a few months ago. He invited me to look any time I felt suspicious, so I'd know he wasn't hiding anything.

Idiot.

I found messages back and forth with a woman who is suffering from a rare condition, requiring medical care. She even begged him to always be honest with her because she's been hurt so much by people who were mean about her condition. She has a low self-image, which made her vulnerable to his flattery.

He told her that he and I broke up because of my family, that they hated him. Then I moved away and he was nursing a broken heart. He said thank goodness he never married me because I would have been the wrong woman. He said he'd be lost without her. He professed to love her, and she said she loved him.

This is while I'm getting emails about how I'm the only one for him and please come back and he can't imagine loving anyone but me.

Gotcha, butthead.

So, this woman and I are now communicating. I told her the truth. She asked for proof. I sent her the recent emails. She's pissed. He is screwed.

I told him what I found, and that THIS is exactly why we're not together and won't be. And what a bad, bad man he is for doing this to a woman who is ill and warned him how vulnerable she is. What if I'd said okay, let's get back together? He knew full well he was going to hurt someone. He knew full well that he was lying to two people, who didn't deserve his crap.

His reply? (and I quote.)

"It's just chatting. Also, I never professed to love her. She's just some one I am talking to, who is an entire state away and completely disabled and unable to date in any capacity. Finally, regardless of what you say, I DO love you, I did NOT lie, and have NOT seen anybody in the time since I've been in Dallas, because as I have said before, I'd rather be alone then without you."

How many lies do you count in that short message? I see at least five, maybe more. (By the way, the woman in question is not debilitated to the point of not dating.)

He's busted. Once and for all.

He has yet to react. The coward. He won't face me, knowing I've talked to her.