Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Don't think Old BF....

....will be contacting me anymore.

He called me the other day. To ask what size underwear he wears. No, seriously. This is exactly what he asked. He was shopping and couldn't figure it out. When I said, "Go with the same size as your pants," he asked what size that was.

Helplessness is a HUGE turn-off for me.

He launched into a spiel about how lost he is without me. How much he loves and misses me. How he's changed and he'd do anything to be with me again. He even promised he hasn't flirted with anyone since I've been gone. "If I can't be with you, then I don't want to be with anyone," he stated.

My Spidey-sense tingled.

He's lying. I know it.

I've asked him to stop putting me through this. While I'm not in love with him anymore and he's hurt me to the core, I don't like to hear him hurting. I don't like hurting him by saying no. I know it makes him depressed and that's BIG GUILT.

If I can prove he's lying yet again, then I'll have proved my case once and for all. And we'll be done with it.

So, I read his email. Now, before you get all up in my face about privacy and all, he gave me the password a few months ago. He invited me to look any time I felt suspicious, so I'd know he wasn't hiding anything.


I found messages back and forth with a woman who is suffering from a rare condition, requiring medical care. She even begged him to always be honest with her because she's been hurt so much by people who were mean about her condition. She has a low self-image, which made her vulnerable to his flattery.

He told her that he and I broke up because of my family, that they hated him. Then I moved away and he was nursing a broken heart. He said thank goodness he never married me because I would have been the wrong woman. He said he'd be lost without her. He professed to love her, and she said she loved him.

This is while I'm getting emails about how I'm the only one for him and please come back and he can't imagine loving anyone but me.

Gotcha, butthead.

So, this woman and I are now communicating. I told her the truth. She asked for proof. I sent her the recent emails. She's pissed. He is screwed.

I told him what I found, and that THIS is exactly why we're not together and won't be. And what a bad, bad man he is for doing this to a woman who is ill and warned him how vulnerable she is. What if I'd said okay, let's get back together? He knew full well he was going to hurt someone. He knew full well that he was lying to two people, who didn't deserve his crap.

His reply? (and I quote.)

"It's just chatting. Also, I never professed to love her. She's just some one I am talking to, who is an entire state away and completely disabled and unable to date in any capacity. Finally, regardless of what you say, I DO love you, I did NOT lie, and have NOT seen anybody in the time since I've been in Dallas, because as I have said before, I'd rather be alone then without you."

How many lies do you count in that short message? I see at least five, maybe more. (By the way, the woman in question is not debilitated to the point of not dating.)

He's busted. Once and for all.

He has yet to react. The coward. He won't face me, knowing I've talked to her.


Fishsticks and Fireflies said...

I will be sure to keep an eye out for him when the next round of Darwin Awards are issued! Not the brightest crayon in the box, is he?!

On a more serious note, I do hope that maybe this prompts him to move on and stop 'bugging' you - at least in regards to wanting you back and the like. Though I think I can probably guess the likelihood of that actually happening.

Blogget Jones said...

Oh, he'll move on. He's pissed at me. Get this, he actually thinks he should be mad at me for catching him in a lie! Can you believe it??

Yep, Darwin Awards. He's sooo stupid about these things. This is how I've caught him in the past, so he should have known....

Walker said...

I had to deal with one with one of my EXs which was the reason it ended between us, twice.
I was dumber the she was when i took her back after the first time and she left me for that guy yet again.
Who dumped her after she left me LOL

He gave you his password so he's got no complaining to do and all dickheads who get caught try and blame it on the other person.
You're better off not even talking to him.
He's a heartless bastard anyway

Lindy said...

Darling I say you get your phone # changed.

Sheesh GAG !!

Blogget Jones said...

Walker -- oh ouch! I know the feeling -- I took him back too many times. Once was too many, so I'm a complete fool. LOL that the guy dumped your ex! There's karma! Yeah, I'm done with him TOTALLY. I just can't believe he did that to the ill woman, though. Wow. I wrote his dad and sister today, telling them what happened and why I was gone for good. I'm close to them, so I thought they deserved better than just ignoring them.

Lindy -- I thought about that! But too many professional contacts have that number, too, so just ignoring him might be easier.


Fire Byrd said...

as we say ever here, what a knob!
you are well rid of him.
hope the other woman has the sense to dump him too.
thanks for doing the following thing

Lightning Bug's Butt said...

Ah, this reminds me of the old adage: "How do you know when a man is lying?"

His lips are moving.

holly said...

that is a whooooole pile of energy spent on a man who does nOT deserve it.

i wouldn't waste my best kick on him.

Blogget Jones said...

Byrd -- A knob is right! And I hope she stays smart, too. What he'd do to her is unforgivable. And you're welcome, on the Following thing! I just discovered that :o) I need some followers!

LBB -- that adage completely applies to this guy. It's worse than I ever thought.

Holly -- you're so right! It kills me to think of all I've wasted with him....but it's over now. No more.


Ronjazz said...

What an idiot... I am constantly amazed at some guys who just don't get it...that instead of simply asking for what they might want, they fuck it all up by deception. You're right, honey...he's a fucking coward.

And you are in a much better place by moving on.

Blogget Jones said...

Thank you ron! My thoughts exactly, but it's so nice to hear others say it, too!

He seems to have a particular talent for fucking everything up, too. What a miserable way to live.

:o) BJ

Sparx said...

I like your style a whole lot - and I HATE it when men think it's ok to get mad because someone's caught them with their liar pants on!

Blogget Jones said...

Is that just not the craziest thing, Sparx?? I mean, his pants were so on fire I could smell the smoke from here! And somehow he thinks I'm in the wrong? Wow, twisted.

And thanks :o)